Biblical view of validating feelings

06-Sep-2017 08:37

I believe He will and I believe that I can consider these ways above to help me be a better wife, a wife who intentionally validates her husband.

A well-meaning person in our church once openly questioned why my husband and I would choose to put our children in school rather than homeschooling them.

The goodness gospel tells me that I must earn that validation, make up for my weaknesses or cover them over, and do better next time. And sometimes I do actually do better next time, but then I fail and the cycle begins again.

The Bible says the goodness gospel is a ministry of condemnation, always reminding me that I am weak and unable to be perfect but never providing a solution other than “try harder”.

– Pray: Say a quick prayer for him in your heart or invite him to pray with you.

It tends to package itself together with pride, self-condemnation, or a desire for encouragement and approval. .” Worse, we turn it around on ourselves: “I’m a good Christian because . We stand as our own counselor, leader, judge, and convict-er, thank you very much.But when we attach things like our education choices to the gospel, that’s when it gets ugly, divisive and dysfunctional. Whether we voice them or not, we choose man-made regulations according to what we value most—sometimes personal convictions that are right and good—and evaluate ourselves and other people according to them: appearance, education, food, parenting, work choices, giftings, behaviors. And we’re happy to take on that role for everyone else too, offering validation to those who choose what we choose and quietly dividing from those who don’t.We’d never say it out loud, but in our minds we categorize ourselves and others according to our standards: “She is a good Christian because . This isn’t the gospel, and this isn’t the Christian life.This only results in cycles of pride and self-condemnation toward ourselves and in relation to others, those two fraternal twin sins that invite us to seek validation from others and grow depressed or angry when we can’t seem to get it.The only validation we need Where is the true gospel in all this, and what does it say about validation? and He died for all, that those who live should live no longer for themselves, but for Him who died for them and rose again” (-15).

It tends to package itself together with pride, self-condemnation, or a desire for encouragement and approval. .” Worse, we turn it around on ourselves: “I’m a good Christian because . We stand as our own counselor, leader, judge, and convict-er, thank you very much.

But when we attach things like our education choices to the gospel, that’s when it gets ugly, divisive and dysfunctional. Whether we voice them or not, we choose man-made regulations according to what we value most—sometimes personal convictions that are right and good—and evaluate ourselves and other people according to them: appearance, education, food, parenting, work choices, giftings, behaviors. And we’re happy to take on that role for everyone else too, offering validation to those who choose what we choose and quietly dividing from those who don’t.

We’d never say it out loud, but in our minds we categorize ourselves and others according to our standards: “She is a good Christian because . This isn’t the gospel, and this isn’t the Christian life.

This only results in cycles of pride and self-condemnation toward ourselves and in relation to others, those two fraternal twin sins that invite us to seek validation from others and grow depressed or angry when we can’t seem to get it.

The only validation we need Where is the true gospel in all this, and what does it say about validation? and He died for all, that those who live should live no longer for themselves, but for Him who died for them and rose again” (-15).

Second Corinthians tell us, “For the love of Christ compels us . We are loved by Christ, as shown in His death and resurrection, therefore we have been given the ultimate validation.