Dating father child

15-Oct-2016 14:56

She could become less flexible to unforseen changes in the visitation schedule or choose not to help in the logistics of co-parenting.While this is perhaps less an issue if the mom is in a relationship or married, heaven forbid if she is single and alone.If women actually understood the emotional hand-wringing fathers endure just getting to the point of even telling the ex and kids, these women might have a greater appreciation and deeper sympathy for what he’s going through.But what really got my attention from her note, and the motivation for this post, is how she started her email: “I can understand your need to want to meet his children as I think it may signal a level of commitment to you and the relationship, that you are ‘known,’ and he is interested, etc.And for single dads who are doing the job of fatherhood right, it should be a sign.Single fathers – and single mothers – must be careful who they allow into their children’s lives.The mom may be overly territorial and that Momma Bear will see any female, and especially one who takes special interest in her kids, as a dangerous intruder that must be closely watched and, if necessary, stopped.For single dads in such a situation, how to blend the kids and the new girlfriend becomes a matter of risk versus reward.

I receive lots of emails from women, many without children, asking questions about dating single dads.

Am I willing to place that very high bet on bringing my girlfriend and my kids together when I likely know where the cards will fall?

So, let me say now, a woman with patience and understanding to this predicament, who chooses not to press the issue of meeting the kids too hard, is someone to be treasured and appreciated. What I mean is not only must a single parent (mom or dad) navigate the emotions and expectations of an ex, they also must consider the kid’s thoughts and feelings.

Kids might play it off as ‘no big deal,’ but I can assure you it is.

I recommend introducing/meeting children only when both people believe the relationship has staying power and are in it for the long haul.” Here’s what I hope this woman, and anyone else reading this, understands. It will have a lasting impact on them even if you think otherwise.

I receive lots of emails from women, many without children, asking questions about dating single dads.

Am I willing to place that very high bet on bringing my girlfriend and my kids together when I likely know where the cards will fall?

So, let me say now, a woman with patience and understanding to this predicament, who chooses not to press the issue of meeting the kids too hard, is someone to be treasured and appreciated. What I mean is not only must a single parent (mom or dad) navigate the emotions and expectations of an ex, they also must consider the kid’s thoughts and feelings.

Kids might play it off as ‘no big deal,’ but I can assure you it is.

I recommend introducing/meeting children only when both people believe the relationship has staying power and are in it for the long haul.” Here’s what I hope this woman, and anyone else reading this, understands. It will have a lasting impact on them even if you think otherwise.

He’s done this twice now, he’s told me the kids do know about me, and that the mother of his children does as well.